Lux Alptraum: Faking It
Monday November 19: 7:00PM – 8:00PM
When we talk about sex, we talk about women as mysterious, deceptive, and - above all - untrustworthy. Women lie about orgasms. Women lie about being virgins. Women lie about who got them pregnant, about whether they were raped, about how many people they've had sex with and what sort of experiences they've had - the list goes on and on. Over and over we're reminded that, on dates, in relationships, and especially in the bedroom, women just aren't telling the truth. But where does this assumption come from? Are women actually lying about sex, or does society just think we are?
In Faking It, Lux Alptraum tackles the topic of seemingly dishonest women; investigating whether women actually lie, and what social situations might encourage deceptions both great and small. Using her experience as a sex educator and former CEO of Fleshbot (the foremost blog on sexuality), first-hand interviews with sexuality experts and everyday women, Alptraum raises important questions: are lying women all that common - or is the idea of the dishonest woman a symptom of male paranoia? Are women trying to please men, or just avoid their anger? And what affect does all this dishonesty - whether real or imagined - have on women's self-images, social status, and safety? Through it all, Alptraum posits that even if women are lying, we're doing it for very good reason--to protect ourselves ("My boyfriend will be here any minute," to a creep who won't go away, for one), and in situations where society has given us no other choice.
Join us as author Lux Alptraum sits down with Charlotte Shane, Meredith Talusan, Emma Sulkowicz and Tia Williams to talk about women and sex.
Lux Alptraum is a writer and producer dedicated to improving our conversations about sex. Lux’s writing has appeared in the New York Times, New York Magazine, SELF, Vice, Cosmopolitan, and Hustler, and helped shape Fusion’s Peabody-nominated Sex. Right. Now. with Cleo Stiller. Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex—and the Truths They Reveal, will be published by Seal Press in November. (Photo by Ellen Stagg)
Charlotte Shane is the co-founder of TigerBee Press, a Brooklyn-based independent publisher, and author of Prostitute Laundry, N.B., and, with co-author merritt k, the chapbook 3 Conversations. Her writing has appeared in Dissent, Bookforum, Harper's, The Nation, The New Republic, and many other outlets.
Meredith Talusan is the executive editor of them, Condé Nast’s first-ever platform devoted to the queer community. The recipient of the 2017 GLAAD Media Award for Outstanding Digital Journalism, Meredith has written for publications including The Guardian, The New York Times, The Atlantic, VICE Magazine, WIRED, The Nation, Mic, BuzzFeed News, and The American Prospect. Her memoir, Fairest, is forthcoming from Viking Press. (Photo by Leah James)
Emma Sulkowicz (b. 1992) is gender non-binary and uses the gender neutral pronoun "they." They are an American artist of Japanese-Chinese-Jewish descent who lives and makes art in their hometown, New York City. They earned a BFA in Visual Arts from Columbia University in 2015 and studied studio art in the Whitney Museum Independent Study Program. They are perhaps best known for their senior thesis at Columbia University -- "Mattress Performance (Carry That Weight)" -- an endurance performance artwork in which they carried a dorm mattress everywhere on Columbia's campus for as long as they attended the same school as their attacker. They are currently the Van Lier Fellow at the Museum of Arts and Design. Their awards include the National Organization for Women’s Woman of Courage Award (2016) and Susan B. Anthony Award (2014), the United States Student Association’s National Student Movement Builder of the Year Award (2015), and the Feminist Majority Foundation and Ms. Magazine’s Ms. Wonder Award (2015). (Photo by Sylvia Kang)
Tia Williams is the bestselling author of The Accidental Diva and the It Chicks series, and co-writer of Iman’s The Beauty of Color. Her latest national bestseller, The Perfect Find, won the 2016 African American Literary Award for Best Fiction – and garnered glowing coverage in The Washington Post, Essence, Cosmopolitan, People StyleWatch, Women’s Health and InStyle. For fifteen years, she was a magazine beauty editor (at YM, Elle, Lucky, Glamour, Teen People, and Essence.com), and she created one of the first beauty blogs, the award-winning Shake Your Beauty. She’s currently head of copy at Bumble and bumble. Tia lives in Brooklyn with her 9-year-old diva daughter and their various accessories.